Please, No Tinted Windows :: the aesthetics of privilege

*note: This post had a very dynamic discussion thread over on Facebook where it was first published. I was just explaining to my husband why I don’t want a black car (we are looking for a used car right now as poor jeep-y is on her last legs) and especially not one with tinted windows. He keeps finding perfectly good vehicles and I keep veto-ing them. We finally sat down and he asked me, “what is it about a black car that is so aesthetically reprehensible to you.” I thought [...]


Nervous Breakthroughs :: why you need more of them

Nervous Breakthrough: Derived from the oft referred to Nervous Breakdown, a Nervous Breakthrough occurs when, instead of viewing the symptoms of the aforementioned as pathological, one views them as important signs of imminent breakthrough. I once had a roommate who had spent about ten years practicing Zazen (a form of Buddhist meditation) who described the day she completed a koan after many years of meditation. She reported that she lost her physical ability to do some of the most simple everyday things, like tie her shoes, and walk down the [...]


New Year Notoriety :: bad is the new good

Forget Safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious. - Rumi Reading this the other night, I felt a massive weight lift from my shoulders. Here we are entering the New Year, starting the yearly bout of Mercury Retrograde and I am feeling the tug-of-war feeling I get every year at this time. I am acutely aware of all that I am not, all the ways I fail to fit in, be liked, look good and succeed, and again this year, like all years, I have [...]